Doing Divorce Different Episode 23 with Smart Step Families' Ron Deal and host Attorney Lesa Koski
Wondering about divorce, dating and step-parenting and how it all affects your children. Today's episode will help you learn how to have a successful step family; how this will help your kids and what to stay away from even in the beginning stages of dating. There is so much good learning going on in this episode. I was delighted by Ron's advice when you have kids date with both eyes open wide. (He also stated when your married keep one eye shut :)-Great idea!).
First, Ron walks us through some red and yellow lights when dating with kids. Because you are a package deal you want to be extra careful on how dating can impact kids. Next he discusses how being a blended family is hard work and worth it. When children are part of a high functioning step family it can mitigate the negative effects of divorce. This being said, never date someone to try to find a parent for you child; you would be marrying a step dad. Having a safe loving health home is what benefits kids the most; whether they have two parents or one.
A thought that really hit home with me was this, "When you live in fear of being hurt you tend to do things that lead you to being hurt." Ron asked, "are you going to be a victim of pain or feel it and push through it?" This is completely in line with my coaching through the divorce process. I will definitely share the insight with future clients that the presence of fear of another break up predicts whether people will have a good or bad marriage 93% of the time.
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