Do You Blame Yourself for the Divorce? Learn How to Suffer Less Through It

Today is our monthly episode with Tracy Pleschourt, founder of Self-Made U. This week; we discuss feelings of shame, blame, guilt, and any other negative feelings we may experience through divorce. Tracy talks with us about the fact that there is no right amount of time to sit with those feelings, but there will come a point when you are ready to move on. She gives a great reminder that we must sit with uncomfortable feelings so then we know what it’s like to feel joy. Tune in today for some great strategies for facing your difficult emotions. 


In this episode:

[5:00] How can we work through difficult feelings like blame, shame, and guilt? [10:25] Can you make the feeling of suffering go away permanently? 

[12:27] What is Tracy’s Mind Over Matter course (coupon code below)? [14:26] How long should you sit with your feelings?


Key Takeaways: 

Without feeling icky, you’ll never know what joy feels like. Let yourself feel those unwanted feelings so that you can prove to yourself that you have the capacity to sit in the negative emotions until you are ready not to anymore. Feelings of suffering will never 100% be eliminated from your life; however, as you learn to work through suffering and the tools to teach you how to look for the opportunities in suffering, you won’t stay in the suffering as long. 


Quotes: 

“I want you to recognize that anything you are feeling is coming from a thought. If you are in pain, the reason why you’re in pain is because you are thinking about something; therefore, the solution lies within you. If what is the matter is a feeling, and your feelings are caused by what it is you are thinking, the solution lies within you.” - Tracy Pleschourt 

“Sometimes you do just need to sit in the feeling.” - Lesa Koski 


Guest Bio: 

Tracy Pleschourt, the Founder of Self-Made U, helps men and women create Self-Made wealth and wellness through life coaching. Tracy has mastered and now teaches the critical skills necessary to manage your mind and overcome any obstacle, including overeating, overdrinking, time management, and career & relationship changes.


Resources: 

Mind Over Matter - 50% OFF Coupon Code: LESA

Teenie Weenie Beanies Song YouTube

Tracy Pleschourt Instagram

Tracy Pleschourt Website

Tracy Pleschourt Facebook

Tracy Pleschourt LinkedIn

Lesa Koski Website  

Lesa’s Online Courses 


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